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Why We Must Demand the “Male Pill”

February 20, 2005



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by David R. Usher
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Men who are sick and tired of having no sexual or gender power in marriage and society have something very important to do: demand legalization and widespread distribution of the male birth control pill immediately.

Feminists were brutally wise urging birth control for women. They cried for a way to prevent coat-hanger abortions and to free women from the burden of unintended motherhood. But the actual political goal, as discussed in feminist books, was to grant women penultimate control over reproduction, and subsequently, family under the guise of “choice”. At the other end of the spectrum, this line of thinking also created Rowe v. Wade, which additionally gave women sole control over everything between conception and birth, insinuating addition sole pre-emptive rights even after birth. The women’s sexual liberation movement was more about creating a matriarchy than anything else. Social data proves this is a reality today.

Having sole control over conception and termination of conception is an awesome amount of power, particularly when one realizes what this has done to family law. Because feminists essentially have total control over all aspects of reproduction, feminist legal principles extending from Rowe v. Wade came to dominate family law, impressing these values on culture from the trial court bench. As it stands, virtually everything within 1000 yards of a woman’s reproductive tract is legally seen as an extension of her body, and therefore, her choice.

Over the years, I have worked with thousands of men who, in my opinion, were raped. “Rape” is the act of forcing one’s reproductive capacity on another person. But law only recognizes this act when a man does it via physical force and violence.

Women force their reproductive capacity on men not by using overwhelming physical force, but by deception and seduction. It is an act of social violence, not physical violence. When combined with the action of welfare laws, it becomes the act of stealing a man’s natural right to be a father and husband. It also becomes slavery, where a man who is denied the right to be a father and husband, must then labor for the benefit of the mother, for which he receives absolutely nothing in return.

Many men end up in paternity suits because his girlfriend said she was using an (invisible) form of contraception; when in fact she was not. Men have no way to verify this. The rape is the misrepresentation of fact surrounding the most powerful aspect of life itself: reproduction and the social structure under which the mother intends it to take place.

A few years ago, I had an extended discussion with Cathy Young about this problem. Despite Cathy’s wisdom in many areas, she simply couldn’t agree with me. “Reproductive fraud” is about as far as she could see. The point here is that we can no longer diminish what women do to men when they force their reproductive capacity on men.

How often do women rape men? I have not seen any studies on this issue. But we can measure the problem another way, perhaps more factually, by looking at illegitimacy statistics. If women were being responsible with birth control, we would expect that illegitimacy would decrease with the introduction of modern birth control methods. It has not. Despite having the best contraceptive methods in the history of civilization, the number of children born out of wedlock in 1995 is thirteen times higher than it was in 1960 (Rosenberg, Harry M. et al. Births and Deaths in the United States, 1995: Monthly Vital Statistics Report). Illegitimacy rates remain unchanged since 1995 [childstats.gov - America's Children in Brief, 2004 ].

So we have it. Despite having the most effective birth control methods available in the history of womankind, women have taken reproductive advantage of men in astonishing numbers. The really sick part is that society blames this all on men, who have very little control over contraception at all.

Men are not stupid. We all know about this problem. Some men resolve the issue by having themselves neutered. Others avoid the problem by finding their gay side, and subsequently join forces with radical feminists who now want to give women the right to marry each other so they don’t need men at all. Some men never go beyond chat room relationships.

But most men eventually end up being raped. It does not have to be this way.

When the “male pill” becomes widely available, I predict we will see profound changes in culture, social data, and legal decisions surrounding the “gender power equation”. Very few men want to end up being served up on the platter of radical feminism. There is no doubt in my mind that the vast majority of men will be highly responsible with birth control, where women have failed so miserably.

Men must live life in the answer. We, too, should have equal control over our bodies and reproduction. The technology is here. All we have to do is organize ourselves and demand it. We no longer have to suffer the triple indignities being raped, having to pay the rapist, and being blamed by government, David Blankenhorn, and even Promise Keepers for it all.

It time for the “responsible half” of the sexual revolution organizes itself, so that men can have equal reproductive and legal rights in society, family, and home. We are being held responsible for the problem, so we might as well put ourselves in a position where we can be responsible for our destiny

Men finally need the right to decide who they are going to get pregnant with. When we can, we will be well on the way towards ending Rowe v. Wade and the plethora of feminist family law principles that fall out of that decision.

The male pill will bring about a tremendous realignment of gender power in relationships. When women can no longer garner the economic benefits of marriage by taking advantage of men sexually and socially, women will again see marriage as a worthy institution. Women will no longer be society’s “free agents”. The power-sharing institution known as marriage will become the norm.

Over time, we will see a realignment of legal principles towards responsibility-based marriage in which men are treated much more fairly. Why will this take place? When illegitimacy ends, the feminist-political-media complex will not be able to use men as the scapegoats of the world. Men will commonly be treated with more respect, and men will be in a clear position to demand it.

Is this a conservative approach? You triple-ditto bet it is. Abstinence is certainly a worthy goal in high school (when kids have plenty to learn and parental controls are in place), but you can’t expect that of men forever. I will bet a date with Hillary Clinton that Rush Limbaugh wasn’t a virgin at age 25. The abstinence programs and welfare reforms in effect for the past decade have not reduced the overall illegitimacy rate one bit. The greater illegitimacy problem is clearly not one of abstinence – it revolves around the fact that men have little control over when they get pregnant. Empowering men to end the illegitimacy problem is precisely what is needed.

Ending the need for the welfare state is the biggest problem government and all political parties have wrestled with for over thirty years. The male pill will largely abate this problem. When men have equal reproductive gender power, many of the welfare-state problems will simply go away. All Democrats, Republicans, and Libertarians finally have a powerful tool to take care of the very problem that obviously can’t be prevented by the traditional reactionary vehicles of education, child support enforcement, incarceration of men, and ratcheting feminist socialism.

Those who want to end abortion have a powerful way to end political support for Rowe v. Wade. Most men desperately do not want the problems that go with out-of-wedlock pregnancy. Men learn at a very early age they don’t get anything out of an out-of-wedlock birth except discrimination, a huge child support order, and the condemnation of society. In fact, we can predict that men will be far more responsible about using birth control than women are because they are the only ones who have a strong incentive to use it. Abortion will become a relic of the past when women rarely get pregnant out of wedlock.

Cultural restoration of marriage depends decisively on the male pill. Men hate the welfare state. They remain unwilling victims of its predatory practices to this very day. The divorce revolution succeeded only because it rode the coattails of the welfare state, which created the notion that we should entitle women for having children out of wedlock. When this entitlement diminishes, reforming the divorce revolution will become a separate and politically approachable problem. When men finally have equal reproductive power, the cultural institution of marriage will become the most popular option – because it is the only institution in which men have equal rights in family, home, and society.

If conservatism is about fungible equality for all Americans – the ownership society, marriage, and ending welfarism; then conservatives must actively call for the male pill. It is the magic bullet with which all egalitarian-minded political parties, organizations, and individuals can end the misery and burden inflicted on every taxpayer, mother, father, and child touched by the problem of family breakdown.

David R. Usher